Dreams

Sometimes a woman will have a dream that her husband cheated on her. Even though she knows it's a dream, she'll stay angry for days.

Any man who has been married for an extended period of time knows what I'm talking about. And she doesn't stay mad for a short period of time, but for days.

And we're such knuckleheads, we go around like a sad puppy trying to get back in her favor. Flowers won't work. That would mean admitting guilt to your behavior in her DREAM.

My advice, which I wouldn't even consider, since I'm on my fourth marriage, is to give her the silent treatment. You may need to spend a few nights on the couch and some fast food, but it will be worth it.

Reinforcement of insane behavior is just not a good idea. It will only encourage more of the same. The penalty depends on your behavior in her DREAM. For example, she may be mad, but can't remember why. That will only be about a day.

If, however, you had an affair, that would be a couple of days. If the affair was with her sister, forget it. Plan on a week. Get a hotel. Stay with a friend; anything. Just don't go home. It isn't safe.

If you don't heed my advice, your honeydo list will be exponentially increased. You'll be doing LAUNDRY! Doing all of the chores you've successfully put off for years. In short, years of work and careful planning will go straight out the window.

If you pack and leave for a few days of r & r, from insanity, the next time it happens, you immediately get your bag, start packing, and see what happens. She may let you go, or she may choose to cave in and apologize, knowing it's just a dream.

The key is, if you allow yourself to be sanctioned, in any capacity, you lose and it will happen again and again and again. It will never end until you take some responsible steps to end the insanity. No violence, just head smarts.
Now, if you'll excuse me, I'm tired, so I'm going to get back on the couch.

See you tomorrow.