I have to blame someone!

I think it’s time we stopped blaming our problems on people in our past and started blaming them on people in the future.

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Taking responsibility for our own actions is very liberating, especially considering that we all make mistakes, so most of the time it's ok.

There are some who live their entire lives blaming negative behaviors on their parents, siblings, grandparents, etc. While most of us could do that and get away with it because there are those who will always sympathize with them.

It's rare to find people who had ideal childhoods. I only know one. This guy says he had absolutely no complaints at all about any part of his childhood, and I believe it. He's amazed when he hears about people who have had troubling pasts.

Here's the truth. If you're an adult, you now get to make your own decisions. You no longer are controlled by the people who caused you harm in the past. You may need a therapist to help you empower yourself, but it is very important to do something. There are few things more sad than to see someone who feels trapped in the situation from the past.

"I could have been a major league baseball player if my father had followed through with his promise to buy me the catcher's mitt."

I actually thought that for years. Why? My little league coach said I had the talent to go a long way as a ball player. Was it up to my father to force me to continue to play? Of course not! Did I blame him? Of course!

The truth is, if I had worked out, lost weight and practiced discipline, I may have done alright, but I didn't. I found excuses to bypass all of the things I needed to do. When I did play in the Joe Dimaggio league in my teens, I was fat and no longer had the skills necessary to be a good catcher.

In retrospect, it was up to me to do the things necessary to develop the skills necessary to become a good player. Who knows what might have happened had I taken responsibility for my own life.

I do that now, and it feels good. I'm writing today because I want to. I write books because I want to. I was a professional comedian for 25 years because I wanted to. I work with the discipline necessary to do well.

So, if you're still trapping yourself in your past, seek help because at this point, you are your own captor.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I need to call my Mom and blame her for holding back from being a rock star.

See you tomorrow.

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