Peace and Quiet

Peace and Quiet. I can have one, but never both. I'm married.

I love my wife. Hopefully, most people love their spouses. Based on the numbers, only half of us do.

I think it might be that we get too busy to care. You know; soccer, dance recitals, music, plays, homework, homework, homework... There is little time left for each other.

Quality time in this day and age is finding the least expensive divorce attorney. Everyone needs to talk and be heard. Or, at least feel that way. If we get too busy, so the children, activities and pets take complete priority, your spouse will find someone else to talk with.

So, quite the conundrum, isn't it? I'm currently reading "The Five Love Languages". It's a great book for any couple, married or not. I think it's safe to say that we all have certain expectations, based upon our childhood experience, of how we want to be sure we are loved. We rarely get that.

So, how do we know we're loved? Look for it. Maybe your significant other grew up with a family that never expressed their love verbally, and that's what you are looking for. That can be a recipe for disaster, the book says. I agree. Unfortunately, my wife grew up in a home where the greatest symbol of love involved the middle finger.

We all have certain ways we tell each other  "I love you". You will miss them if you're looking for something else. That would be a shame, because that is what we're looking for.

Now, if you'll excuse me, my wife is "telling" me she loves me. Oy...

See you tomorrow.